Navigating Kink through a Feminist Lens OR “Cuff me, Spank me, and Call me a feminist!” Sexuality and feminism have a complex history, especially around issues such as porn, BDSM, and kink. How do we as feminists act in a way which is respects and celebrates our kinky sex practices? We’ll discuss the keys to engaging healthily with kink in a feminist way, examine how culture and socialization shapes us and our desires, and talk about how minimize the impact our kinky practices have on those who are triggered or otherwise negatively impacted by them.
Poly 101 Curious about this “polyamory” thing you’ve heard so much about? Considering opening up your existing relationship, single and considering converting to polyamory, or just want to better understand this relationship style? Come listen, learn, ask questions, and hopefully have fun!
How to date an assault or abuse survivor This workshop is for everyone- survivors, partners of survivors, and people who might one day date a survivor (which is pretty much anyone).
Being a survivor and dating- How do we discuss our histories, triggers, and needs with new potential partners? When do we start to disclose our history, and how much? How do we navigate the discussion when both of you have an abuse history? How do we fight and disagree in a way that minimizes triggers without silencing our partners?
Dating a survivor- What are the big no-no’s? What’s vital to ask, what’s ok to ask, and what’s off limits? What tips are their for initiating physical intimacy? How do you navigate conflict and disagreements without triggering your partner? What are the taboos which will likely bite you if you don’t know about them?
Kink and BDSM for Abuse Survivors Kinksters who are survivors of rape, abuse, sexual assault, or other traumas face unique challenges. Topics discussed may include teaching your partners to distinguish between your subspace and traumatic/defensive dissociation, alternatives to safe words such as “go words”, and how to navigate the challenges abuse survivors sometimes experience negotiating boundaries. We’ll also discuss the rewards and healing abuse survivors can experience through WIITWD.
Coming Out Poly This is a 200 level workshop, designed primarily for those who are already practicing Polyamory, but can be useful for people of all experience levels. Polyamory is a non-traditional relationship style, and those who practice it often fact the question of when, how, and to whom to come out. Coming out Poly explores the similarities between coming out as lesbian/gay/bisexual as well as the differences. We’ll discuss how to broach the subject to a potential date, navigating the workplace, the issues which poly parents experience.
Honest Seduction Seduction has a bad rap, synonymous with manipulation, deception and the “pick up artist” sub-culture. Honest Seduction is cooperatively creating power and sparking healthy intimacy. It is part seduction technique, part lifestyle, and part relationship model.