On Tuesday Chad and I broke up. For those of you who hadn’t yet heard through various other social media platforms, consider yourself notified.

It was a smooth breakup as far as breakups go- we both had reasonable views on something that was a deal-breaker.  Unfortunately they were different views.  We are still friends- in some odd way our relationship feels stronger and more fun than it has in weeks.  (Although that could also be attributed to my hitting the 4 week mark of being back on Zoloft and off of the awful Prozac.)  I probably have some grief to work through, and  I have to figure out what to do with my life after November 12 (I have commitments up through then), but in general I feel centered, solid, and certainly supported right now.

I arrived back at the commune today for a 2 week stint- I might go to Cville or Acorn for a few days, but I’ll be at Twin Oaks most of the time.  Most of my posts for the next two weeks will be about my experiences at the commune, how it’s different from my life in Philly, my thoughts about that and my future, and possibly some disjointed rambling if there’s an especially awesome party.

Speak up men folk!

“We need to hear from the men, too.

For every single woman who’s ever had an abortion, there’s a man somewhere in the story. For every woman who was able to delay motherhood until a better moment, or improve her existing kids’ chances by not enlarging her brood, or end a pregnancy that was doomed to end in tragedy and pain, there’s also a man out there who is not a father today — or is a better father to the kids he has — because a woman he was involved with had the means to make this decision.

Forty years of feminism notwithstanding, the reality in American politics and culture is that our national discussion around this issue won’t materially change until men understand just how invested they are in this issue — and then stand up with us to insist that our reproductive rights be protected and preserved.”

via Abortions Have Made Life Better for Millions Of Men: It’s About Time to Speak Up in Support.

“Whenever something tragic happens to someone there is always someone who says “This is why I do this…”
As if tragedy can’t strike them because they are SO smart and superior.
For instance a family loses a child, then someone says “this is why I get up and check on my child three times a night. ” Or “This is why I always drive my child to school.”

You hear this shit even more when someone has been violated “this is why I never go outside in a dress/drink/talk to strangers.”

It’s just really insensitive and fucked up.

Bad things can happen to anybody at any moment and taking your special precautions won’t always keep you safe.

I know people do it because it makes them feel safe but when something tragic happens to someone, it sounds like you’re victim blaming (because you are) and that does no one any good at all.”

Source: You know what really gets to me: – STFU Hatemongers.